Welcome to the January Carnival of Natural Parenting: Learning from children

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared the many lessons their children have taught them. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.


Back when we were young, child-free, adults, my husband and I enjoyed spending time in the outdoors. We took chances, when we could, to get away from the world and into the fresh air. We spent a lot of time backpacking and hiking, escaping the everyday of our city lifestyle.

Nature is great for so many reasons. It gives you a chance to breathe, to relax, to disconnect. As a new couple, being out in the woods gave us a chance to connect, learn, and delve deeper into each other. We rarely, even on backpacking trips lasting longer than a week, had a problem coming up with things to talk about, but sometimes when there was a lull we’d pull out the “Book of Questions.”

I don’t remember most of the questions, much less my responses, but I do remember one vividly.

The question asked, “If you could wake up with any one personality trait, what would you want to wake up with?”

At first I didn’t know how to respond, I hesitated and thought and still came up blank. Aaron gave his answer first while I continued to mull mine over. As he was midway through elaborating on his answer, I came up with mine.

“Patience!” I interrupted, “ I would wake up with patience!”

While initially lost on me, the irony was not lost on Aaron. He immediately erupted into laughter and continues to do so when we retell the story to this day.

I never did wake up with patience after that backpacking trip and I still don’t have quite as much of it as I would like. But patience is one thing that I’ve definitely learned more of from my little guy.

I’ve learned patience as his little fingers struggle to do things themselves when I could quickly step in and help.

I’ve learned patience as we walk down the street, never in a straight line and always finding distractions.

I’ve learned patience as we are just about to leave the house, all suited up in our winter gear, when I realize that a diaper change is in order.

I’ve learned patience as I read the same story for the 10th time in a day.

I’ve learned patience in so many different ways over the course of the past two years, but I still have a long way to go. I know I will probably learn even more patience in the next two months and, then, even more when he is joined by his sibling.

Perhaps one day I won’t need to wish to wake up with patience anymore, I will have all I need.


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(This list will be live and updated by afternoon January 11 with all the carnival links.)

  • http://littlegreenblog.com Mrs Green @ littlegreenblog.com

    Oh sweet mama, how I could relate to your post! Patience; yes – I definitely lack that but I’m getting there, slowly, thanks to my daughter’s patience with me. Thanks for such a great post


  • http://codenamemama.com Dionna @ Code Name: Mama

    I am definitely a work in progress when it comes to patience. Maybe it’s just the three year old stage – it has really been a struggle trying to navigate the ups and downs of the preschool years. Wishing you continued patience!


  • http://ahaircutandashave.blogspot.com RS

    I’ve found that, yes, I have to be patient with my 6-month-old daughter…but I sometimes wonder if I don’t have a finite stock of patience, so when I use it up on my daughter, I have less for my colleagues, dogs, husband, etc. I feel like I’m definitely less patient with my dogs since my daughter was born, for example!


  • http://dreamingaloudnet.blogspot.com/ Lucy @ dreamingaloudnet

    3 kids in 5 years born to a woman with no patience. This too is my lesson. And I am learning the hard way 🙂


  • http://www.talesofatiredmommy.blogspot.com Kristen @ Adventures in Mommyhood

    Like Dionna, I am a work in progress with patience. Being a mother has surely given me more, but, like you, hopefully someday I will have all I need.


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  • http://teamkemendo.blogspot.com Melissa @ The New Mommy Files

    It’s amazing how much someone so small can teach us about something so big! Patience is high on the list of things my daughter has taught me, and I still have much to learn!


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  • http://mommajorje.blogspot.com Momma Jorje

    Oh good one! I wish I had learned patience from my older daughter because I think she deserved a lot more of it from me than she got. I was famous (if only in my own head) for not letting her finish a task. I feel I’ve wronged her a bit on that one.

    But I AM improving. I guess it just took having ANOTHER baby. lol These days I’m patient enough to even let my 16 month old put cheese into my eggs while they are still cooking. I hope, really really hope, that I can hold onto and grow this trait.

    And I love your story about interrupting to request patience!


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  • http://www.dulcefamily.blogspot.com Dulce

    Oh, yes! That is so familiar. I have a long ways to go in learning patience, but they really are amazing teachers. Thank you for a lovely post! <3


  • http://www.theparentvortex.com Michelle @ The Parent Vortex

    Ah, patience was (and still is) a big lesson that I’ve learned from motherhood. Patience to allow them to grow and develop at their own pace – early talking or late. 🙂


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